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Diane N Quintana's avatar

This is a wonderful thought. I love the idea of not putting yourself in a spot where other people's accomplishments will make you think badly of the rate at which you are accomplishing what you want to do.

I met with a client yesterday who was verbally beating herself up over something she didn't do. My advice to her was to decide to do things differently (this is related to the organization in her home). She was berating herself for being messy. I worked with her to create the amount of organization with which she is comfortable and then told her it's within her control to change her habits to maintain the organization.

She doesn't need (and shouldn't) compare herself to pictures in magazines or other people's homes.

I realize this doesn't completely relate to what you're saying - but I wanted to share. Thanks for listening.

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Kara Cutruzzula's avatar

What a PERFECT example -- this absolutely relates and gets to the heart of what I was trying to say. I reread this three times: "It's within her control to change her habits." Such succinct and useful advice.

And I need to remember this as well. What makes a home or space feel right and functional *to me* and not what would simply "look good."

Your client is so lucky to have you in her corner!

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Meg Oolders's avatar

"Seeing other people do something you want to do but aren't doing because [insert reasons here] is a quickie shortcut to feeling bad about yourself. (Or maybe that's just me?)" Nope - that's me, too. 🙂

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Kara Cutruzzula's avatar

Glad to know I'm not alone in this. I hope we can both remove ourselves from these situations whenever possible!

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Nicole Lungerhausen's avatar

I needed to see this today. Thank you so much for your compassionate, kind words ❤️

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Kara Cutruzzula's avatar

Thank you so much for reading -- that is why I write.

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Sarah Kelly's avatar

I needed this one today. Thank you, Kara! ❤️

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Kara Cutruzzula's avatar

So nice to see your name, Sarah! Keep up that self-belief. (I, for one, have always believed in you.)

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Joan Stoneking's avatar

What a great encouragement and reminder ~ thank you 💜

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Kara Cutruzzula's avatar

I really appreciate you being here, Joan! Thank you!

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Krista's avatar

So helpful! (As always.) Thank you!!

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Kara Cutruzzula's avatar

Makes me happy to know my brain shares a little bit of the same thoughts with your brain. Keep going, Krista!

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Marilyn's avatar

Your words were just what I needed to start my week! It is hard to preserve self belief.

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Kara Cutruzzula's avatar

Let's keep it up!!! I'll be here to gently remind you.

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