This is a wonderful thought. I love the idea of not putting yourself in a spot where other people's accomplishments will make you think badly of the rate at which you are accomplishing what you want to do.
I met with a client yesterday who was verbally beating herself up over something she didn't do. My advice to her was to decide to do things differently (this is related to the organization in her home). She was berating herself for being messy. I worked with her to create the amount of organization with which she is comfortable and then told her it's within her control to change her habits to maintain the organization.
She doesn't need (and shouldn't) compare herself to pictures in magazines or other people's homes.
I realize this doesn't completely relate to what you're saying - but I wanted to share. Thanks for listening.
What a PERFECT example -- this absolutely relates and gets to the heart of what I was trying to say. I reread this three times: "It's within her control to change her habits." Such succinct and useful advice.
And I need to remember this as well. What makes a home or space feel right and functional *to me* and not what would simply "look good."
Your client is so lucky to have you in her corner!
"Seeing other people do something you want to do but aren't doing because [insert reasons here] is a quickie shortcut to feeling bad about yourself. (Or maybe that's just me?)" Nope - that's me, too. 🙂
This is a wonderful thought. I love the idea of not putting yourself in a spot where other people's accomplishments will make you think badly of the rate at which you are accomplishing what you want to do.
I met with a client yesterday who was verbally beating herself up over something she didn't do. My advice to her was to decide to do things differently (this is related to the organization in her home). She was berating herself for being messy. I worked with her to create the amount of organization with which she is comfortable and then told her it's within her control to change her habits to maintain the organization.
She doesn't need (and shouldn't) compare herself to pictures in magazines or other people's homes.
I realize this doesn't completely relate to what you're saying - but I wanted to share. Thanks for listening.
What a PERFECT example -- this absolutely relates and gets to the heart of what I was trying to say. I reread this three times: "It's within her control to change her habits." Such succinct and useful advice.
And I need to remember this as well. What makes a home or space feel right and functional *to me* and not what would simply "look good."
Your client is so lucky to have you in her corner!
"Seeing other people do something you want to do but aren't doing because [insert reasons here] is a quickie shortcut to feeling bad about yourself. (Or maybe that's just me?)" Nope - that's me, too. 🙂
Glad to know I'm not alone in this. I hope we can both remove ourselves from these situations whenever possible!
I needed to see this today. Thank you so much for your compassionate, kind words ❤️
Thank you so much for reading -- that is why I write.
I needed this one today. Thank you, Kara! ❤️
So nice to see your name, Sarah! Keep up that self-belief. (I, for one, have always believed in you.)
What a great encouragement and reminder ~ thank you 💜
I really appreciate you being here, Joan! Thank you!
So helpful! (As always.) Thank you!!
Makes me happy to know my brain shares a little bit of the same thoughts with your brain. Keep going, Krista!
Your words were just what I needed to start my week! It is hard to preserve self belief.
Let's keep it up!!! I'll be here to gently remind you.