KARA! I read this after coming home from my wedding weekend and being on such a high and then feeling sad that all my friends and family are gone.... I actually Googled "post-wedding blues" and then saw your subject email line and was like, hmm.... so serendipitous and so true!
Awww! Nikki! I completely understand! Any event that you've planned and looked forward to and then actually happens and feels even better than you imagined...well, *something* has to happen afterwards, right? I hope you're able to lean into the "resting" state of it all. And I'll say that even just a few days after writing this email, I feel very different -- and better! The highs and lows always even out. <3
Weddings are so CRAZY. It’s already a hugely surreal experience and then you add on the fact that you’re also surrounded by family, friends, and staff hired for the wedding and/or reception all wanting to talk to you at once, and no wonder it’s a totally overwhelming experience! I mostly remember my own wedding as just a blur and am grateful our photographer got soooo many photos so I have something to help me remember 😅
Although it's part of life, it's the not shareable, not glamorized, not desired one, so maybe that's why is so hard to embrace. When you understand that good emotions just exist due to contrast, maybe is easier to be in peace and be thankful for them <3
So true, Bruna! I have not shared...much of anything this week, haha. And hadn't noticed until you mentioned it. Enjoying the peace sounds like a wonderful place to be...
I love the still moments - the time when the pendulum has swung back and you have a steady, predictable hum. The climb towards achieving something provokes lots of anxiety in me. Questions like: will it be everything I am hoping for or more? Will it bomb? What will I do if it bombs? These questions cycle through my mind when I'm in the middle of putting something BIG together.
When the BIG thing is over and done (provided I haven't created something awful) I get to relax. To bask in the knowing that I've done it and can now relax into the hum of the still moments.
Here's an old musing I wrote on the high and low pendulum. https://stockfiction.substack.com/p/little-highs-big-lows For me, the low slow times always seem to last longer than the fast high times. But that's just perception. I think. 😉
Thank you for sharing this! (You wrote it before I was an avid subscriber :) Excellent points all around. And now you've convinced me to read The Practice for the third time.
KARA! I read this after coming home from my wedding weekend and being on such a high and then feeling sad that all my friends and family are gone.... I actually Googled "post-wedding blues" and then saw your subject email line and was like, hmm.... so serendipitous and so true!
Awww! Nikki! I completely understand! Any event that you've planned and looked forward to and then actually happens and feels even better than you imagined...well, *something* has to happen afterwards, right? I hope you're able to lean into the "resting" state of it all. And I'll say that even just a few days after writing this email, I feel very different -- and better! The highs and lows always even out. <3
Weddings are so CRAZY. It’s already a hugely surreal experience and then you add on the fact that you’re also surrounded by family, friends, and staff hired for the wedding and/or reception all wanting to talk to you at once, and no wonder it’s a totally overwhelming experience! I mostly remember my own wedding as just a blur and am grateful our photographer got soooo many photos so I have something to help me remember 😅
Glitter crashes happen all. the. time!!
it is all a blur and I'm very much looking forward to the photos so I can relive it haha!
In the burlesque world, we call it Glitter Crash 💕
I am absolutely using this from now on -- SO much more fun to say than the "blues."
okay i love this!
Although it's part of life, it's the not shareable, not glamorized, not desired one, so maybe that's why is so hard to embrace. When you understand that good emotions just exist due to contrast, maybe is easier to be in peace and be thankful for them <3
So true, Bruna! I have not shared...much of anything this week, haha. And hadn't noticed until you mentioned it. Enjoying the peace sounds like a wonderful place to be...
I love the still moments - the time when the pendulum has swung back and you have a steady, predictable hum. The climb towards achieving something provokes lots of anxiety in me. Questions like: will it be everything I am hoping for or more? Will it bomb? What will I do if it bombs? These questions cycle through my mind when I'm in the middle of putting something BIG together.
When the BIG thing is over and done (provided I haven't created something awful) I get to relax. To bask in the knowing that I've done it and can now relax into the hum of the still moments.
Enjoy the quiet. It will get noisy again!
This is very comforting to me! You're so right!! Thank you, Diane.
Lovely. Feel free to rest a while, my friend.
I needed to hear this! Thank you.
Here's an old musing I wrote on the high and low pendulum. https://stockfiction.substack.com/p/little-highs-big-lows For me, the low slow times always seem to last longer than the fast high times. But that's just perception. I think. 😉
Thank you for sharing this! (You wrote it before I was an avid subscriber :) Excellent points all around. And now you've convinced me to read The Practice for the third time.