‘I don’t have time’ and other lies I tell myself
Oh, hi friends!
I’m more and more convinced that these five words are the biggest lies I tell myself…
I don’t have time for…
[Please insert your own thoughts at the end of that sentence.]
Don’t have time to work on my play, write up a book proposal, answer that lingering email, collaborate on that musical.
It’s more accurate to rephrase that, um, phrase to this…
It’s not a priority for me to…
Now that stings a little bit. Because aren’t these the things I want to be doing?
Maybe they are, or maybe they aren’t!
But the root of “I don’t have time for” isn’t a lack of time. It’s usually a fear of getting started, or fear of finishing, or fuzziness over what the next step might be, and so on.
Good news. Those can be figured out more easily than freeing up an extra two hours every day. You’ve got time.
Photo by Ylanite Koppens from Pexels
“One of the hardest things about writing lyrics is making the lyrics sit on the music in such a way that you can’t tell there was a writer there. I’m talking about inflection, elongation of syllables…”
What’s hard is to appear effortless. Isn’t that always true?
I was so happy to listen to this interview with Stephen Sondheim—and be introduced to the podcast “What It Takes” featuring conversations with Kazuo Ishiguro, Barlett Sher, Nora Ephron, Thomas Keller, and many more.
Nothing I love more than a good long chat about creative process.
(h/t Allison McNearney for this gem)
I didn’t watch the Golden Globes, but I did catch Glenn Close’s win for her role in The Wife (upsetting Lady Gaga, the presumed favorite!!!). Here is a bit of her wonderful speech for those who can’t watch the video above.
"You know, it was called The Wife. I think that's why it took 14 years to get made. To play a character who is so internal, I'm thinking of my mom who really sublimated herself to my father her whole life.
In her 80s she said to me, 'I feel like I haven't accomplished anything.' And it was so not right. And I feel like what I've learned from this whole experience is, women, we're nurturers, that's what's expected of us.
We have our children, we have our husbands if we're lucky enough, and our partners. But we have to find personal fulfillment. We have to follow our dreams. We have to say, 'I can do that, and I should be allowed to do that.’
When I was little I felt like Muhammad Ali, who was destined to be a boxer. I felt destined to be an actress. I saw the early Disney films and Hayley Mills and I said, 'Oh, I can do that!' And I'm here today.
It will have been 45 years in September that I am a working actress, and I cannot imagine a more wonderful life.”
Do you like these daily emails? Please share with a friend!
Thanks, as always, for reading.
Love, Kara