Today's Brass Ring Daily: The Three Kinds of Reputation
Oh, hi friends!
Reputation is a funny word. When you were in high school, your reputation could be made or broken by which friends you chose to hang out with or your after-school activity (newspaper for the win!).
But small characteristics and choices add up to reputation. The Apple dictionary-approved definition: the beliefs or opinions that are generally held about someone or something.
Now that we're adults, though, I think there are three kinds of reputation:
There’s your social reputation—who you are around your friends and loved ones, and what they think of you.
There’s your work reputation—who you are at 3 p.m. on a Thursday or when you respond to an annoying email.
And then there’s your personal reputation—the beliefs or opinions you hold about yourself.
It seems rare for all of your reputations to align.
Maybe friends think you’re sweet-as-pie, but the guy in the cubicle next to you thinks you’re a jerk. Or your boss considers you brilliant, but you think you’re a dumb-dumb.
Our emotions can swing rapidly when we go work > home > life. But wouldn’t it be something to be consistent in every environment? To make choices not based on our audience and context in the moment, but on a larger, more important scale: our universal reputation?
“When you complain, nobody wants to help you.”
Tools for Titans attributes this quote to Stephen Hawking. I’ve been complaining for weeks, so thanks for this sweet 'n' gentle slap in the face.
A Podcast Nugget
Instead of asking new people, “So, where do you work?” try, “What are you excited about right now?”
This advice is from Lewis Howes' podcast interview with Vanessa Van Edwards on "the science of people." She also talks about the importance of EQ, and how to state your value when asking for money or setting your rates. Gold. Listen on desktop or iTunes. (thanks Brother for the rec!)
Thank you for reading.
Love, Kara